If you are considering getting married at either St Botolph’s
or St Mark’s please first arrange an appointment with Fr Lawrence on 01474 566400.
What happens next: After your initial booking meeting, you will arrange to meet with Fr Lawrence about three months before
the wedding so you can make your personal choices about the service. You can have a wedding with a CD playing the music or, we can also provide you with an Organist,
Choir and Tower Bells.
After that: One week before your wedding there will be a rehearsal
in the Church for the couple, brides father, brides maids, best man, ushers etc to help you all be confident and relaxed on
the day itself.
neither of you live in our parish and are qualifying
for marriage at St. Botolph’s/St Mark’s via the route of electoral roll membership, you will be expected to become
regular worshipping members at one of our Sunday services at 10.00 a.m. or 4pm for a period of six months. This is a
legal requirement but it does have the advantage in helping us to get to know you and you us!
can fit approximately 350 people in the church so there is plenty of room for your guests to be comfortable.
THE SERVICE With Fr Lawrence you will need to make decisions on what type of service.
The first choice concerns whether you want the traditional language service (BCP) or the new service (CW). To help you
think about this you will find part of the introduction of the two versions of the wedding service outlined below. Brides
can, with both versions, decide whether to obey or not. The important thing is to look at what the service is saying and decide
which of the two reflect your own views. In the traditional service the emphasis moves from marriage being ordained
for the increase of mankind, with the proper direction of natural instincts, to the mutual help and comfort that the one ought
to have for the other. In the newer service the emphasis moves from help and comfort to responsibilities in the wider community.
THE TRADITIONAL SERVICE The Book of Common Prayer ... Dearly beloved, we are gathered together...here in
the sight of God, and in the face of this congregation, to join together this man and this woman in holy Matrimony; which
is an honourable estate instituted of God ...and is not therefore by any to be enterprised, nor taken in hand, unadvisedly,
lightly, or wantonly, to satisfy man's carnal lusts and appetites ... but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly,
and in the fear of God; duly considering the causes for which Matrimony was ordained. First, it was ordained for the
procreation of children ... second, it was ordained for a remedy against sin .. thirdly it was ordained for the mutual society,
help, and comfort, that the one ought to have of the other, both in prosperity and adversity. Into which
holy estate these two persons present come now to be joined ...
THE NEWER SERVICE Common Worship … we have come together to witness the marriage of N and N, to pray for God’s blessing
on them, to share their joy and to celebrate their love. Marriage is a gift of God in creation through which husband
and wife may know the grace of God. It is given that as man and woman grow together in love and trust, they shall be united
with one another in heart, body and mind, ...The gift of marriage brings husband and wife together in the delight and tenderness
of union and joyful commitment to the end of their lives. It is given as the foundation of family life in which children are
[born and] nurturedand in which each member of the family, in good times and in bad, may find strength, companionship and
comfort, and grow to maturity in love.
Having decided upon the form of service you will now have to think about
the music. You will need to decide on the Bridal March, any music played or sung whilst the registers are signed and the Wedding
March. We are happy to help you chose the music and do remember that our fine pipe organ cannot produce
‘electronic music’. In addition, hymns are sung during the serviceREADINGS You will
also need to chose a reading/s for the service from the Bible or other poems or literature The Vicar can help with suggestions.
The Choir You may book our fine Choir
for your wedding and the charge is listed on the sheet setting out fees etc. In addition, we may be able to provide a soloist
to sing whilst the registers are being signed.
BELLS You can also arrange for the Tower
Bells to be run at the end of the service and we also make a charge for the to happen. WITNESSES You will need to chose two adults to sign the registers during the service
as witnesses to the marriage.
FLOWERS Flowers of the season are sometimes provided for the Sunday service
on the next day, except during the season of Advent (December) and Lent (Around March). The Church Flower Arrangers are very
happy to provide wedding flowers and you should contact the flower arrangers who are listed on the Who’s Who. They will
be able to discuss arrangements and costs.
MONEY At your first meeting with Fr Lawrence you will be expected to pay a non returnable deposit of £25.00 in confirming
the date and time of your wedding. The balance of money must be paid 21 days before the date of your wedding.
PASSPORT If you're going abroad for your honeymoon, the Passport Office
will provide a passport in your new name dated the date of the wedding. Get the form P.D.2 from the Post Office and have it
signed by the Vicar in good time. Make sure the tickets are in the same name as the Passport
CONFETTI The throwing of confetti is not allowed because of the litter Act.
Clearing it up inside the Church is a real problem.
OF BANNS If
either of you lives outside of our parish boundaries, and you are being married by banns at St. Botolph's, it is your
responsibility to get your banns read in the parish church in which that party is resident. You must obtain a banns
certificate from that parish and present it to us no later than one week before your wedding. Without this piece of paper
you cannot be legally married in church. (Do not leave it to the last month to organise!)
VIDEOS There is no extra charge for audio and video recording but this must
be arranged in advance to prevent abuse of copyright. The Vicar will also give directions to the operator prior to the wedding
so it does not interfere with the service.
PHOTOGRAPHS No flash photography is allowed during the service as this detracts from the occasion.
We are happy for the official photographer to photograph the signing of the registers.
RECEPTION AT THE CHURCH HALL If you wish to book the Church Hall for your wedding reception please see the section on Church Hall
FINALLY If any of the information on your application form should
change between now and the wedding, it is extremely important you tell the Vicar straight away, especially addresses.